But if black women are going to defy the statistics, they need to start being more realistic. Holding out for the perfect man, someone who is intellectual but not nerdy—cool but not arrogant—impeccably dressed but not effeminate—not a player but with just the right amount of edge—is useless. Smart can go with a little nerdy. Artsy can be accompanied by off-beat. Ambitious and focused may mean less than a social butterfly. Yes, there was that one guy in law school who was easily 6’5’’, a Rhodes Scholar and a rapper, with a baby face to top things off. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but please!
And let’s be fair. We expect men to resist what society tells them about ideals when it comes to us—God, help the brother who admits a preference for skin or hair displayed on every magazine cover; or the arrogant fool who holds out for his own Clair Huxtable, not acknowledging that The Cosby Show was fiction. We’re justifiably upset when unrealistic standards are imposed on us, but many of us don’t seem to give black men any breaks in return when it comes to the superficial.
I was lucky enough to meet my beautiful, hilarious and unfailingly confident boyfriend two weeks after arriving to D.C. to begin my legal career. (By lucky, I mean I tracked him down in a Giant parking lot, tooting my horn to get his attention and asking if he was new in the neighborhood or needed a ride.) Jason works for a nonprofit. He drives a rattling, rimless Mazda. He has a particular pair of pants that were cuffed too ambitiously by his tailor, and he still wears them to work with determination because he paid for them. He has long dreads that see neither a twist nor a drop of beeswax in between the days I style them. If a tuft of hair escapes a lock in the middle of his forehead and I don’t see him for two days, it sits front and center for meetings and happy hours and pictures.
That half an inch of sock peeking out between his pants and shoes when he takes a long stride and that rebellious tuft of hair might have led many of my cohorts to let him walk out of the grocery store without a second look.
The point is simple. Given the numeric and historical facts, those of us who do seek to have relationships with black men of similar circumstances might need to open up a little. That doesn’t mean giving up on attraction. Attraction cannot be faked or forced. But we must start to question our assumptions about what our ideal really is. If a guy with a tentative smile and an awkward two-step could still get a dance (before he made the cover of every magazine in the country), more black women might just find a relationship they could believe in.
Now that's a flagrant foul.
Former New Jersey Net star Richard Jefferson bailed on his stunning fiancée -- pulling the plug on his posh Manhattan wedding at the 11th hour without even alerting some of the guests, The Post has learned.
The cold-footed forward's decision to ditch onetime Net dancer Kesha Ni'Cole Nichols was so last-minute that some of his oblivious friends had already shown up last Saturday at the swank Mandarin Oriental in Columbus Circle for the $2 million wedding that never happened.
Jefferson -- who was traded in June to the San Antonio Spurs -- dumped Nichols just before the weekend, according to sources.
She immediately called her family and friends to say the ceremony was off.
But Jefferson waited much longer, his friends told The Post.
"He called about two hours before the wedding. It was nuts," said one Jefferson pal.
He never showed up at the hotel, but "all his boys were there," the friend said. "He gave his best friend the Black Amex [credit card] for the night."
Jefferson's guests made good use of the credit card to party on their pal's dime.
Nichols did check in to the hotel on what was to have been her wedding day, and was upgraded to a suite on the 45th floor with a king-sized bed and a Central Park view, according to a source at the Mandarin.
The would-be bride was stunned, but "not entirely caught off-guard," by Jefferson's unsportsmanlike conduct, according to a family friend.
"She just wants to keep this as quiet as possible and move on. She's doing just fine," a Nichols family insider said.
Neither Jefferson nor Nichols responded to requests for comment.
Just a few months ago, LeBron James was the king of the world. He was awarded the NBA’s coveted MVP Award; his Cavalier team had the best record in the league, and was destined for a championship. NBA fans around the world were infatuated with the possibility of a Kobe vs. LeBron showdown in the NBA Finals and with a push by Nike’s advertisement team, this was LeBron’s year for the taking.
Everyone was ready to become a “witness.”
But all good things must come to an end, and for King James they came to an abrupt halt.
LeBron’s downward spiral began when his Cavs’ were embarrassed and outplayed by the Orlando Magic in the Eastern Conference Finals, in which James walked off the court without shaking hands with his opponents. This act drew him a lot of criticism as a sore loser, and having bad sportsmanship. He also ducked the post game interviews, which kind of looked like he was running away from defeat.
LeBron’s image took a big hit in the eyes of many.
Then, last week’s story of LeBron being dunked on by college player, Jordan Crawford, at LeBron’s Skills Academy Camp, made things worse. The now legendary story claims that Crawford’s dunk on James was caught on tape, but feeling the embarrassment, LeBron told Nike reps to confiscate the video never to be seen by the public eye. Since then, the scandal has been comically called “Tape-Gate”.
I personally like LeBron James, but right now he looks like a big baby who can never be upstaged by anyone. Not shaking hands, for me, is understandable; but asking Nike to conceal tapes to avoid embarrassment is just too much. I know LeBron isn’t used to being on the receiving end of a dunk, but hey, it happens to everyone sooner or later.
So what do you think? Is LeBron James a sore loser?
Akon made a baby with a woman who now wants him to make child support payments -- but she claims the only thing he does better than sing is hide from process servers. We're told Sara Coleman's lawyer has been desperately trying to serve Akon -- even at Michael Jackson's memorial -- but so far no luck. Akon has already taken a paternity test -- and it was a match! The kid is 6 months old. Akon's lawyer gave us the following statement: "Akon has taken responsibility and has been extremely cooperative and proactive in handling this private matter. Paternity was only established just over 30 days ago. Since the case was filed outside of Georgia jurisdiction, where he is a legal resident, Akon is currently in the process of engaging counsel in California and will continue to handle this matter in a timely manner."
The best way to a Snoop Dogg concert is through his stomach -- as the employees of a California pizzeria just found out.
We're told Snoop and tour mate Stephen Marley placed a $900 order with Big Louie's Pizzeria in Eureka last Wednesday -- but instead of asking for cash, the restaurant put in a request for concert tickets.
Snoop and Marley obliged -- forking over 12 tickets and a bunch of t-shirts and hats.
Fun Facts: S & M ordered pizza, 6lbs of BBQ ribs and hot wings -- Marley stuck to vegetarian pies while Snoop got the chicken pesto and chicken garlic extreme.
Who is friends, What is friendship A lot of people go through life with only a few friends. Others seem to have a multiple number of friends like google's PageRank which increases in cumulative. Of course, some people are perfectly happy to operate with fewer friends. They might rather have a few deep and loyal friends, than many superficial ones. Others thrive best when friends are everywhere and numerous. It is not so much the number of friends that is important as is the possession of friends, period. Friendship is a blessing, and a friend is the channel through whom great emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical blessings flow. Friends will cheer us when we're sorrowful or depressed. Friends will challenge us to attain our original limits with encouragement when we allow ourselves not to go beyond our reasonable boundaries. Friends will motivate us when we're ready to give in, and they can provide for us when life falls apart. Friends are there when all is well, and we want someone with whom to share life's pleasant and memorable moments. We often just want them around, to have a good time, to laugh, to act silly, to enjoy some mutually liked activity. In how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for? Probably, too many to list, and the list grows daily. They motivate us to attain our goal. They will stand by our side when you need a support. you will tell about a girl/guy whom you love and will ask for help for the love. When you get problem in that love all others will run from u but not your best friend. They help us by challenging( a challenge which motivates us) and also motivates us for reaching our aim. Friendship is only everlasting feature in this world. Friendship reside in our hearts - and when it finds the correct soul in another heart it starts its grow. Friends, They are the only source of our brave hearts. We may not be brave but friendship gives courage to our mind and body. Friends will save us from any situations. Friends will help us to escape from big troubles. Friends will come front to solve the problems. Friendship never knows to runaway during problems. A good friend stays when there is problem and goes after the problem solves. We can tell a lot about friendship and friends. You may have a lot of friends but try to get a friend who is loyal, trustable to us and be like that to your friend also. That is the only meaning of friendship. "BE LOYAL AND TRUSTABLE". As I reflect on the past year of my life I am very thankful for the few dear friends I have. For the help they have given me at the loss of my nephew, hardships in my personal life and frustrations with my work For me a true is one that is always by your side even if they do not agree with the choices you make - it is through these actions that you truly find the ones that have your back.
The big Brother had a big ego, towards his little brother as both artist seen in this picture(R:Jay-Z & L:Kanye West) From the snitching reporter this feud began when both we're discussing who would close the show in the UK on Sunday, July 5th "Ding Ding" Someone get the Warm water and Salt this is a vocal stretching contest. As Sources say, Both artist we're Auto Tuned in a "threw the wire" Screaming battle back an forth with each other for who would closed the show Jigga man or Kon-Ye-Ze.(Which should of been decided)But this dispute ended with Jay-z leaving the arena with out preforming.. Damn....